As TI's we are all different. I know that. We all come from different backgrounds, have different circumstances and different reasons in relation to why the targeting started for us.
But one thing we do have in common is what we are all subjected to i.e. the same patterns and behaviours of harassment, no matter who you are and no matter where you live in the world.
As a TI of 8 years standing now, I've had to learn to adapt to the toxic changes which have been enforced upon me. It goes without too much saying that I never wanted this in my life or ever expected it. I didn't even know this thing existed until it happened to me. TI's see this as a life-altering / life-changing situation and, like many other TIs, I've had to make certain adjustments in my life.
I hate to use this word here but it's true - the more "experienced" you are as a TI, the more it can assist you. You learn not to react, you learn to make changes, and you look for ways to adjust and help yourself. This is something which at the start, and even up until a couple of years ago, I was always quite poor at or fairly slow at. I was either poor at realising what changes may help me, or very slow at making the necessary changes that I needed to make. But, fast forward to today, I am much more efficient at understanding what changes may help or which are needed, and I'm much more efficient at deploying these changes.
So, what are these changes?
Well, as mentioned above, all TI's are different. As TI's we all focus on the changes that suit us the most. Some, for example, spend a lot of time constructing faraday rooms. Some decide to spend more time indoors. Some decide to spend more time in nature. Some TI's like to start journaling. Some TI's focus on increasing their privacy. Some do many of these things, in combination. We are all different.
In terms of my own situation, there are a number of things which have helped me along the way and which continue to do so. But, there are 2 things which stick out for me.
The first one is this; to focus on more positive energies and reduce the focus on the negative tactics and energies created by the harassers. This is explored in much more detail in our Reclaiming Calm book (link at the bottom). The one thing the harassers rely on the most is that they grab your attention - so that you notice them and they affect your psyche in a negative way.
If you can get to a point where you don't notice them then this is what you should aim for. It's not really about ignoring them either. "Ignoring" them suggests that you have noticed them, they have affected you, but you choose to just "ignore" them. It's not about ignoring. It's more about aiming for a wholesale change in your life - where you can make the changes you think you need to make to enjoy the positive things in your life and where you simply don't notice "them" - either at all, virtually at all, or 90% of the time.
The second one for me is the use of headphones and good music. Not only does listening to music you love transport you to a better place and help lift your mood, headphones can prevent the harassers from catching your attention with external noise outside. To be honest, I never really started using my headphones as an immediate blocker to the external noise. I had them sitting around in my house for ages. But I paid a lot of money for them and one day, out of the blue, I just started to wear them and I had a whole weekend with them listening to nice music. Since then, I've never looked back. I wear them every single day now and I'm now building my own library of MP3 songs which I love and enjoy.
Remember though, you still need to be aware of your surroundings if you use headphones (such as being able to hear smoke alarms in your home) - especially so if you are in the house alone.
Some TI's, myself included, have had the harassers interfere with our music whilst we listen to it by stopping the song, rewinding it, fast forwarding it, or skipping to another song. Purchasing an MP3 player which is self-independent and does not have any Bluetooth or WIFI connection is the way to go here. As soon as you use a device which is "connected" to the net, or where the Bluetooth is on, it gives the harassers the opportunity to use this "connection" to harass you further and disturb your music enjoyment.
We hope you continue to find ways that suit you the most and which bring positivity into your life. If you have any questions, just leave a comment and i'll get back to you.
We wish you a good day 💗
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